After reading "The Coaching Habit" by Michael Bungay Stanier, I really wanted to know more about how to be a better coach and avoid the Advice Monster. In "The Advice Trap" I learned more about the types of Advice Monsters and how to wrangle them into submission.
I love how he describes the 3 types of Advice Monsters with such clear (and quite relatable) descriptions! MBS proposes that the three most common Advice Monsters are:
Tell-It = "You must have the answer!"
Save-It = "You must be responsible for it all!"
Control-It = "You must stay in control!"
I am pretty sure I have been all of these at some point in my life - or even the last week. But the one that resonated the most with me (and the survey from TheAdviceTrap.com said was most like me) is the Save-It. After reading and contemplating a bit more, I know part of it stems from the anxiety that builds in me when I want to get something done quickly. If I just take it on myself, then I know where things are at and if it will get done. And then no one else is burdened by the work either. Definitely some cross over with Control-It!
Buuuuut... now is as good of a time as any to take a step back and be a better coach. As MBS suggests (and describes, and helps you practice in his book) - there is value and meaning in being quicker to listen and slower to give my suggestions. We all know I will still have thoughts bounce around in my head... but I will try to tame the monster and use my coaching skills to help others find the path.
Can you relate to the Advice Monster? Which one do you feel most often?